Tuesday, July 1, 2008

Biting my tongue...err, keyboard

OK, when I started this blog I wanted it to focus just on our adoption journey. That's it, just Project Baby. I've had days where I was tempted to push in an entry on something else, especially things that get me steamed, but so far I haven't. However, lately I can feel that knot in my stomach tighten and my blood starting to go from a low simmer to a boil so I'm going to fall off the wagon here for a minute. I promise to keep it short but if I don't write something down my head is going to explode. Besides, this actually does have to do with the baby; more specifically it has to do with our family.

Once again here in Arizona the right wing religious wing nuts have decided to take it upon themselves to define what a family is for the rest of us. Because we aren't as smart as they are, we foolishly thought we already were a family. Not so fast. They want to enshrine discrimination into the state constitution to define marriage as only between a man and a woman. No matter gay marriage is already illegal in Arizona, but they want to make sure it stays that way. Now as I said before this is really a topic for another blog, and right now I may just be mad enough to start one about it. My concern here is if this does go through how will it affect adoption law? Will they say only married couples can adopt children? If they do we're screwed. Now I don't think it will get to that right away, the issue is that it could. The wing nuts will say, "Oh no, we aren't discriminating against the homos. We'd let them adopt if they were married, but they aren't. Pity, that." We are already limited to single parent adoption. One of us will have very tenuous ties to this child, and unlike married couples will have to carry around tons of paperwork wherever we go to prove there is a guardianship link. Going to the doctor, picking up from school, getting on an airplane, these are all things that are going to be more difficult if the "legal" parent is not there. I don't want anything to get in the way of this adoption. Our family is just as legitimate as anyone else's. Our child is already going to be at a disadvantage because it will only be able to inherit benefits such as social security and the like from one parent instead of two. Only one of us can claim it on our tax returns. I could write a book on all the benefits we can't have (there are over 1,000) but I promised to keep it short. I've yet to hear one reason why two people who love each other cannot get married that is neither religious or bigoted.

Sorry, I just had to release some steam. I think to make myself feel better I'll ---

No. Not going to finish that sentence. I was going to make some joke about something to tick of the religious crowd but I won't. Not all religious people are bigoted and that wouldn't be fair to them. Since I'm getting way off topic here, I'm disabling comments for this post because I don't want to debate this and get off track.

Now, back to happy thoughts...