Thursday, March 10, 2011

Adoption Denial Brought to You by the Letter Tea

Arizona is the home of Tea Party 'Merican Values.  We do things right.  For example, one of the first acts our legislature took on after the tragic shooting of Gabrielle Giffords in Tucson was to make the Colt revolver the official state gun.  We also allow them in bars and at the state capitol, and as of today allow them on campus (SB1467) and inside all public areas such as sports arenas.  Luckily, everyone who has one concealed on their person is well trained...oh wait, actually we eliminated permits and training, so any 'Merican can carry them around.  Soon, a new bill will outlaw destroying guns confiscated by police.  Because melting down a gun is like gassing a puppy.  I suppose we'll put them up for adoption.*

Now anyone can adopt a gun.  Children, well not so much.  Our state senate just passed SB 1188, the "Marital Preference Law".  It now heads to the house.  This bill mandates that adoption agencies and the state give preference to married couples when adopting from the foster system.  So if you're single you go to the end of the line.  Now to our Tea Partying legislature, "single" is really code for...wait for  Since we eliminated divorce and bestowed marital bliss and eternal happiness on our married population by outlawing gay marriage this bill will stand in the way of gay couples seeking to adopt from the state.  I know, that's a pretty big charge, saying they are secretly trying to stop same sex parenting.  So let's take a look at the mind of a Teabagger...

SB1188 was introduced and is sponsored by State Senator Linda Grey, R (big surprise there) District 10.  Now Sen. Grey's website sports a link to the Center for Arizona Policy, a "Protect the Family" group that sponsors every anti gay bill in the state.  Well they don't really "Protect" all families, certainly ours is up for dismissal.  The families of straight white Christians (really, who else lives in Arizona?) specifically.  They have a very loving website all children should visit, with topics on what the bible says about homosexuality and how gay marriage is destroying 'Merica.  They have a policy doc on this bill and all the research they cite is from a Dr. Bradford Wilcox.  Now who is he?  Obviously some expert who has done extensive and objective research...ah not quite.  Dr. Wilcox is the director of the National Marriage Project, a religious organization aimed at banning gay marriage.  He is the only person they use as a reference for their policy paper.  They completely ignore all other research on the matter, and make false claims such as:
  • Social science proves children do best when raised by a married mother and fatherFalse.  Years of study by all reputable groups show there is no difference between children raised by gay couples versus straight couples, and marriage certainly is not the deciding factor. 
  • SB1188's language ensures that all factors indicate placement with a married couple is in the child's best interests.  False.  Just because the bill says that doesn't mean it's true.  If that's the case my husband and daughter are also 3/5's of a person.
  • Adoption is designed to come as close as possible to natural parenting.  OK all adoptive true is that?  Search almost any blog on my reading list and tell me how close you come to that.
Don't get me wrong, if you're straight and single I'm sure there's something wrong with you too.  After all, this state is crawling with redneck trailer owners (some without meth labs) willing to make an honest woman out of you.  All you need to do is get hitched.

Senator Grey states on her website,

I BELIEVE in equal rights, equal justice and equal opportunity for all, regardless of race, creed, sex, age or disability.

Maybe.  For now, I'm going to sabotage my neighbor's marriages by tucking in my daughter and kissing my husband good night.

*For the record, I support the rights of qualified Americans to own guns, and am a responsible gun owner myself.


Jimh. said...

Bobby, you never cease amaze me with your astute observations and your clarity of thought! I wish I could rise to such levels!

It saddens me that so many government agencies seem to judge only certain people as able to adopt children, and even then, they make adoption here in the US more difficult than need be, yet any accidental coupling at a kegger can raise a child, without classes and without forethought, and generally with a lack of respect for education and foresight. Ah, America!

Donnaski said...

As someone who has come into contact with literally thousands of children (and their parents), there should be some criteria for becoming a parent, least of all being sexual orientation. There are many fine examples of "parents" who are simply granted the right to that title just because they figured out their biology homework. I can't tell you how many empty chair/teacher conferences I have had.We should be starting with having half a brain, being able to make good decisions for your child, taking an interest in their health, well-being, education, spirituality, etc. Oh, and if you can give love, that doesn't hurt either. Last I heard, love comes from your heart, not you race, religion, or sexual orientation.

Bobby said...

Well said!

Anonymous said...

I do have to wonder what their relationship is with their children that they feel the sexual orientation of parents makes some impact on their parenting skills.

Anonymous said...

I absolutely love your insight and your ability to get your point across. I agree with you WHOLE heartedly.

BellaDaddy said...

Here Here! You said all! Cannott agree with you MORE! Thanks!!!

Tim and Louie said...

Bobby, excellent piece! You hit the nail right on the head! Equality Arizona is asking for people to write letters to the editors of AZ newspapers, I could think of no better person for this than you!

Louie and Tim
Cave Creek

P.S. - Pride is coming up next weekend! You and the family should think about checking it out this year! Tim and I will be in the parade with our friends from PFLAG Phoenix!

Tim and Louie said...

Well, looks like SB 1188 has now gone to Governor Brewer's desk. Equality Arizona is asking people to tell Governor Brewer to veto this bill: