Sunday, March 14, 2010

Everything Will Bring a Chain of Love..

Apparently I'm a week behind in blogging.  We've been back from California for a week now and I still have not unpacked my suitcase.  I should write a post about my procrastination problem, but that can wait for another day...

Our reunion with Sabrina's birth family was incredible.  There was a little trepidation on our part at first, because the original plan was to meet at a restaurant in Long Beach.  About a week before we left, "Lucy" (*not her real name) emailed us and said her mother wanted to make lunch for us at her place.  We were a little leary about this sudden change in plans, but we talked about it and decided that she had such trust in us, and made such a leap of faith by chosing us to parent her baby, that we needed to repay that trust back.  So on Saturday, we left our hotel in Old Town Pasadena and headed down to her home about a half an hour away.

We did not know what to expect as we had only met Lucy at the hospital when Sabrina was born.  I was not sure if there would be tears (I thought I would be emotional!), laughter, tension, or what, but I knew I was being silly.  We have a great relationship with Lucy and I mentioned to Gregg that I thought she would be more nervous then we were.  When we got there, she came out onto the front porch as we unloaded the car, and right away I knew this would be a good visit.  I saw a woman with a big smile on her face, just looking so happy.  When we got up to the door, she hugged us both but didn't take Sabrina from my arms.  We walked in and her mom was in her room still getting ready.  Lucy's two girls, 8 years old and 20 month old were sitting there waiting.  The older girl had a big smile on her face; the younger one looked a little unsure of us.  I could tell the older girl took good care of her sister.  When I put Sabrina down, she crawled right over to the kids.  The older girl gave her a big hug.  She turned to her sister and said "It's OK you can play with her, she's our sister".  I admit seeing the first meeting of the sisters made me a little misty.  It took Lucy a bit to pick her up, but when she did my gosh what a smile came on to her face!  Sabrina was in her happy mood (as usual!) and put everyone at ease.  After about a minute, we were all laughing like a big family.  I tried to get Sabrina to give out the gifts we brought for Lucy and the girls, but I guess we forgot to tell her that whole thing about being better to give then receive so I did it myself.

When we met Lucy's mother, we were at ease right away.  She is the kind of person that lights up a room.  We got big hugs, and she adored the baby.  She was able to make us feel so welcome in her home immediately.  And what a feast!  She's a fantastic cook, making a huge lunch of seafood jumbalaya and all the trimmings.  The best part of the entire day was at a point when the adults were sitting around the table talking, and the girls had moved into another room.  We could hear squeals of laughter from the three of them and that just made my heart sing.  We took tons of pictures.  We ended up staying there for over four hours, just laughing and talking.  We're so glad we ended up in her home, where we could all talk and the girls could get acquainted.  Lucy's mother told me her heart was at rest after meeting us and seeing how we interacted with and loved her granddaughter.  I told her our family had grown some more that day.  We received a warm and wonderful email from her the next day.  I think we are all looking forward to our next meeting.  Open adoption is truly a wonderful thing.

14 comments:

Lucy said...

What a wonderful story! I'm so glad y'all had such a good visit. Great picture too!

P.S. I've left a little something for you over on my blog.

Johnny and Darren said...

What a heart warming post and thank you for sharing the photo with us too.

I'm smiling from ear to ear!

Johnny

Rhonda and Gerry W said...

How absolutely wonderful!

Malea said...

Reading through this one was sure a roller coaster ride. I was scared for you two when you said she wanted to change plans to her place,but it looks like things turned out okay.

That Jambalaya sounds good!

I see the cool hair is back.lol

RB said...

Beautiful post Bobby! Open adoption IS a beautiful thing :)

Kate said...

What a wonderful meeting and Sabrina and her sisters will be so blessed to know each other- not to mention everyone else- but truly the innocent little girls will always have a sister type bond.

Great picture. What a wonderful experience for all of you.

growfamilygrow said...

Two good teary posts in a row!? I love these posts. I'm so pleased it went so well. When my better half wakes up I'm definitely sharing this.

2momswithaplan said...

Damn it, Bobby! Stop making me cry!

That said... thank you for sharing your story. I loved reading every part of it! ;)

Lisa T. said...

YEa! I'm so glad it went so well. We are so grateful that we live close to Henry's bm so we can see her often. It is a wonderful thing. There is so much about this post that makes me happy.
So much love! A true representation of the best that human beings can be.

Kristin said...

Awesome! (That is all.)

Erika said...

What a wonderful story!! I wish for similar relationships for our girls and their birth family. Right now it doesn't seem feasible, but maybe someday. Still so glad I found your blog.

mommy3 said...

I loved this the most: "Open adoption is truly a wonderful thing." Ohhh, how much we learn. Your visit sounds just perfect and the song title so apropos -- the chain of love.

whacked daddy said...

Thanks for sharing your day. I was nervous for you, but glad it went so well.

Michelle said...

Wow, just reading this makes MY heart sing. Incredible. We met with Kayla's and Caden's birth mother the night of the day she was realeased from the hospital and signed papers. It was amazing...something I will never forget. To see her with both our babies and her first son all together, and all her family...and how much they accepted them and us..incredible. We and you are very lucky to be able to meet with the birth families like we do. So lucky.