Apparently I'm a week behind in blogging. We've been back from California for a week now and I still have not unpacked my suitcase. I should write a post about my procrastination problem, but that can wait for another day...
Our reunion with Sabrina's birth family was incredible. There was a little trepidation on our part at first, because the original plan was to meet at a restaurant in Long Beach. About a week before we left, "Lucy" (*not her real name) emailed us and said her mother wanted to make lunch for us at her place. We were a little leary about this sudden change in plans, but we talked about it and decided that she had such trust in us, and made such a leap of faith by chosing us to parent her baby, that we needed to repay that trust back. So on Saturday, we left our hotel in Old Town Pasadena and headed down to her home about a half an hour away.
We did not know what to expect as we had only met Lucy at the hospital when Sabrina was born. I was not sure if there would be tears (I thought I would be emotional!), laughter, tension, or what, but I knew I was being silly. We have a great relationship with Lucy and I mentioned to Gregg that I thought she would be more nervous then we were. When we got there, she came out onto the front porch as we unloaded the car, and right away I knew this would be a good visit. I saw a woman with a big smile on her face, just looking so happy. When we got up to the door, she hugged us both but didn't take Sabrina from my arms. We walked in and her mom was in her room still getting ready. Lucy's two girls, 8 years old and 20 month old were sitting there waiting. The older girl had a big smile on her face; the younger one looked a little unsure of us. I could tell the older girl took good care of her sister. When I put Sabrina down, she crawled right over to the kids. The older girl gave her a big hug. She turned to her sister and said "It's OK you can play with her, she's our sister". I admit seeing the first meeting of the sisters made me a little misty. It took Lucy a bit to pick her up, but when she did my gosh what a smile came on to her face! Sabrina was in her happy mood (as usual!) and put everyone at ease. After about a minute, we were all laughing like a big family. I tried to get Sabrina to give out the gifts we brought for Lucy and the girls, but I guess we forgot to tell her that whole thing about being better to give then receive so I did it myself.
When we met Lucy's mother, we were at ease right away. She is the kind of person that lights up a room. We got big hugs, and she adored the baby. She was able to make us feel so welcome in her home immediately. And what a feast! She's a fantastic cook, making a huge lunch of seafood jumbalaya and all the trimmings. The best part of the entire day was at a point when the adults were sitting around the table talking, and the girls had moved into another room. We could hear squeals of laughter from the three of them and that just made my heart sing. We took tons of pictures. We ended up staying there for over four hours, just laughing and talking. We're so glad we ended up in her home, where we could all talk and the girls could get acquainted. Lucy's mother told me her heart was at rest after meeting us and seeing how we interacted with and loved her granddaughter. I told her our family had grown some more that day. We received a warm and wonderful email from her the next day. I think we are all looking forward to our next meeting. Open adoption is truly a wonderful thing.
No longer a thirtysomething!
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