Monday, June 22, 2009

Father's Day + 1

I know, I didn't post anything yesterday, my first Father's Day as a father. I meant to. We had a busy weekend. Saturday we had a dinner with some of the guys from the Dad's Group. I think it was a nice way to start Father's Day weekend, being with other adoptive gay parents and their kids. We like for Sabrina to be in that environment as much as we can, that way as she grows she'll always have the support of friends that are in the same type of families as she is. There was one slight mishap, as we left I needed room in the car to get on the seat and buckle the little nipper in. I put her Baby Einstein DVD on the roof, and well...let's just say I owe her one now! Those Baby Einstein videos facsinate her. They're really about color contrast and movement, plus we have the soundtrack and we play it in her room all the time so she's used to the sounds. We don't really want to expose her to a lot of TV already, but they work when we're cleaning house or showering or taking the newest batch of meth out of the oven. (Just kidding, we don't clean house...)

Sunday, the actual holiday, found us scrubbing away getting ready for our social worker's visit today. The weekend is our normal cleaning day anyway, but we needed a little extra "umph" this time. We let Sabrina take us out to dinner, and that was fun. She's becoming quite the foodie; Monday was D'Vine Wine Bistro to celebrate my cousin's birthday, Friday Gregg just said "NO" to cooking so we went to Buca di Beppo, and then Red White and Brew last night.

I thought a lot about my Dad this weekend. He did everything he could to always make sure his family was well taken care of. Many times he'd work two jobs to keep things going for us when we were little. We never had lots of money but there were always great family camping trips, birthday parties, and I know the debt meter was off the scale at Christmas. My dad taught us to always do the right thing. Maybe we didn't always get along growing up, but I wouldn't be the person I am without him. I don't really feel like a true father yet; it's only been nine weeks. But as I walk the room with the lights out at night, getting her to sleep, I find myself walking for an extra fifteen minutes with her in my arms, and some tears going down my cheek. She started out as Finster, became a home study, a letter, then a website, but now she's Sabrina and I can't imagine how I'd live without her.


s said...

awww... happy 1st daddy's day, fellas... we love delighting with you over your darling sabrina :)

Lucy said...

Happy (belated) 1st Father's Day! Isn't this parenthood thing amazing????

Minnie said...

Ohhh. I just found your blog from 2MomsWithAPlan.
I don't know if I'm more in love with the cutie of a daughter or the dogs.
I have 2 kids and 2 labs.

2momswithaplan said...

Oh gosh... Bobby! You made me cry! I was doing good until that last line.

Happy Father's day to both you and Gregg! You two have come so far..

PS I heart Buca.... yum!

Lola said...

Happy Father's Day. Hope you both had a great first Father's Day.

mommy3 said...

Okay, your post really got to me. Happy Father's Day (belated) to you both.

Lucy said...

P.S. Just sent you an email with info on Little Ricky pix!

Gregg said...

To add to that last line, Bobby's Dad is the GREATEST guy. I love him more than my own Dad, as sad as that is to say. He is just a wonderful person, always willing to help out, always smiling (even though like his son he "thinks" he is SO funny).

Jeve (aka John and Steve) said...

Congrats on your first Father's Day!

Andrew's Daddies said...

Hey Guys,
Just stopped in to say Happy First Father's day.
It's the best, isn't it?

Take care