Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Defy Gravity

Last week was Gregg's birthday, and I was actually able to keep his present a secret at least until a few hours before I gave it to him.  He's a big fan of the Wicked books which tell the behind the scenes story of the witches of Oz.  So we got my sister to baby sit our own little munchkin and went out to dinner and to see Wicked the Musical, which was playing it's national tour in Tempe.  If you've seen it, you know how wonderful it is, and if you haven't, well, get on your broom and get to the theatre before someone drops a house on you.  We had a great time, and believe it or not it was the first night we'd gone out together without Sabrina since she was born.

Wicked focuses on Elphaba, the Wicked Witch of the West, and tells her origin story and the story of Oz from her point of view.  I won't be giving anything away when I say there comes a point in the play where she has to make a life changing decision right after she gets bitten by a radioactive spider realizes her power and becomes "The Witch".  She has to choose between compromising her principles and doing what's expected of her or following her instincts and doing what she feels is right regardless of the consequences.  This happens at the Act 1 finale where she sings "Defying Gravity".  The song comes as she gets her broom and learns to fly, but is also a metaphor for her taking her leap of faith and steping off into the unknown with only her determination and morals to lift her up.  It's a very inspirational scene.

I've been thinking of about this all week.  How have I tried to "defy gravity" in my life?  I guess by living an openly gay life, by taking a risk and moving to L.A. for a few years, maybe even by becoming a parent.  More importantly, I want Sabrina and our future child to "defy gravity" in their lives.  As a parent, it might not be an easy thing to support.  Perhaps I'll be at odds with their ideas.  Maybe I'll want to protect them and keep them safe.  Who knows.  But I want to think that when the time comes for my kids to make their own decisions I'll be there to support them even if I'm not necessarily in agreement.  I know how we're raising them.  I know the values we're imparting to them.  I know we'll encourage them to dream big.  When they come to me and tell me what their dreams are, I hope I'll have the courage to look them in the eye and say "Go--follow your dreams.  And defy gravity".

5 comments:

Karin said...

Happy Birthday Gregg!

You haven't seen a performance of "Defying Gravity" unless you've seen it sung by Anthony in his full witch costume, climbing up onto the sofa for the flying part!

Unknown said...

Karin, that sounds like a made for You Tube moment!

Kristin said...

Awww, sniff! This is so sweet, Bobby. You are such a great daddy.

Tim and Louie said...

Wicked was awesome! Tim and I went to see it a few weeks ago and I wish we could have seen it a few more times!

It was brilliant!

Cheers!

Louie and Tim

mommy3 said...

Beautiful, Bobby. You just said it so so well about parenting and defying gravity. I think of each of my children and yes, how I work to accept their ideas, choices, plans -- and yes, they'll defy gravity, including my 15 y/o son who has worn his wolf hat most of the time for 10 mos. and IS TOTALLY himself, period. So love "Wicked" and the songs; makes me want to listen this afternoon again!